try and take care of yourself
I've been dating a guy for a little over 11 months and he has been sick for over a week He has had a fever, nausea, chills, body aches, vomiting, diarrhea etc. We suspect its COVID-19 and he's self-isolating. He's been to urgent care twice and the emergency room once (Btw, I only found out yesterday/today about these visits) The doctors won't test him as he's not severe enough, he's to self-quarantine for 14 days. He is miserable but will hardly take any of my suggestions for alternative treatments. My sister has a PhD in infectious diseases and offering sage advice to help him. When I have managed to get him to agree to let me bring him: vitamins, smoothies, soup, herbal treatments etc. He barely says thank-you or show any real appreciation. He also won't take the herbs which were very expensive. OK but why accept them?? He will not have any physical contact with me (We each live alone) which is okay as we have to self-isolate, but I thought we could at least provide emotional support to each other. NOT. He doesn't check in with me to tell me how he's doing or to find out how I'm doing? And when I call him, he tells me to pretty much don't bother him as he needs to rest. When I called yesterday as I was concerned because I didn't hear from him all day and was worried; he told me he was asleep and that he didn't have to be in touch with me to update me on the status of his health, WTF?? Today, I texted him a bunch of scientific studies via YouTube and Instagram on alternative treatments and he told me my text were so annoying he turned off his phone. He told me there was nothing that could be done as there are no vaccines and he just has to "ride it" out. And that he had to get off the phone as he needed his rest. He has stopped texting and calling me all together and will barely respond to any of my calls or text when I reach out to him. But if he needs financial support; I certainly will hear from him all day long. I've loaned him SEVERAL thousands of dollars recently due to a job demotion. At this point, I'm ending the relationship NOW as he doesn't seem to care about me or my genuine concern for him. I thought we were in a relationship and that we cared about each other?? The COVID-19 Pandemic has awaken me to the reality that I'm not in a relationship at all. Its clear he has been using me. I'm ending things now. I won't be taking his calls anymore either and I guarantee when rent is due, I'll be hearing from him. He can talk to my voicemail as he's getting blocked. I will pray for his recovery but I can't be bothered any longer.