grinding my gears
HELP ME! My wife is getting on my nerves. I'm working all day. She hears I'm on the phone and will come in the room, talking as if I'm not on the phone.
Today, she came back emptied out groceries and made coffee - GRINDING BEANS!
I am going to lose my mind. We have a one bedroom apt. Can I work out on the terrace? Can I work at the park? can I go to my office? I'll be alone. I adore her, but this is taking marriage to a whole new test.
open concept relationship
Hello,
I woke up to a call this morning that I am laid off from my job.(I’m a hairstylist) and then an hour later got in a fight with my live in boyfriend. Whom I’d just moved into his apartment on feb 1st. Either way we broke up and now are sitting awkwardly in an open concept apartment with no doors, pretending the other doesn’t exist. Happy quarantine!!
before they hatch
I froze my eggs three weeks into our relationship (planned before I met him of course!) I took him to a funeral over Christmas, right after meeting my entire family for the first time. My mother almost died- multiple times. When it came down to the end, and mom needed a liver to survive, I was her living donor and gave her half of mine.
So when I say we been through some shit, in the not even two years since we met, WE BEEN THROUGH SOME
SHIT.
Enter: Coronavirus, a worthy opponent. And this tricky little beast co-quarantining. Life and death couldn’t take us down but if my boyfriend leaves one more dirty dish randomly lying around this house...
...I see you, Coronavirus. You want us. All of us. But you ain’t taking us down.
living in a vacuum
"Hold the vacuum the other way."
"Do you wanna do it?"
"No. [pause] Why? Is your asthma acting up?"
"No. It just seems you're trying to supervise."
"Well I don't have anyone else to supervise right now, do I?"
fruity problems
9am- wake up go for a run with the boyfriend. Got in about maybe 2 miles before giving up.
11am- made a trip to the grocery store with the boyfriend. Get into a fight about red onions. People start to stare. Rush to a register and leave. On the walk home, this argument turns into one over fruity pebbles and Cinnamon Toast Crunch. Fruity pebbles all day everyday.
12pm- we make up and make breakfast/lunch together and enjoy our meal.
1pm- sit down to start answering some work emails
2pm- Received a phone call that the staff is being let go.
I just want my fruity pebbles to eat my feelings away. Happy quarantining folks.
tough love
This has become a nightmare for my relationship. The basics are as follow: I live with my parents and they are older and in the dangerous age group for Covid-19. My girlfriend has 3 kids that go back and forth between her place and her ex husband's. His girlfriend and her two kids live with him and also go back and forth to their dad's house. Schools are closed, social distancing is supposed to be practiced, the world is in crisis, and she's coming and going from my home as she pleases, multiple times a day, like it doesn't apply to her. I finally said that it makes me anxious that she's potentially putting me and my parents in very real danger. She said I'm overreacting and that it's clear I don't care about her or want to make the relationship work. We've been together for two years. I feel like if she cared about me or my family then there wouldn't even be a question as to whether or not health and safety precautions should be followed.
This pandemic has given me a new perspective on what it means to honestly love and care about someone.
To me, I feel like if you love someone then you do the right thing by doing what you can to ensure their safety.
If someone is more concerned about their personal wants than the safety of those they are supposed to care about protecting, then it's not love.
Am I wrong?
i don't love him anymore so nothing
I decided I would finally leave my husband and return to the US this year. Then the pandemic hit. We are in isolation together. And while we’re here we’re getting along so well, namely bcs I don’t love him anymore so nothing he does annoys me. I feel bad bcs we are really getting each other through right now but I know at the end of summer I will leave him.
staying in(side) my feelings
Ironically, my feelings are currently the only thing that is not under isolation. So I meet someone I REALLY like, he go to London, all is good and then- whoops! there’s a lockdown. Like, really?... That’s what I get when I finally show interest in someone? I also have no clue how to express to him (over the phone) how I feel, cause I NEVER get attached. I’m praying to the gods of Corona, pleaseeee end this. As far as I know I’m COVID clean, but I’m definitely experiencing severe symptoms of lovesickness and we know for fact that they haven’t been very successful in curing that. Ughhh how are people coping with unreciprocated feelings? And this quarantine situation is not exactly making it easier to stay distracted… Fuck it, I’m going to London, flights still cheap huh?
my super ego
Feeling annoyingly superior about "how well" I'm handling compared to other people, mostly my parents. My ego is such a bitch it's ridiculous.
trial by fire
One day before DC declared a city-wide emergency and closed all businesses, I decided I should sleep with my hook up buddy one last time. Maybe it was the the world burning around us, but we had the best time yet. After months of thinking I had zero feelings for this man, turns out it took the apocalypse to make me feel otherwise.
After four hours of hanging out and having a grand old time, we said good-bye thinking maybe we could keep this going before things get super serious. I texted him letting him know I was down if he was. Little response was given, but it was okay I was still running off the high of great evening together.
Turns out, this was just the optimal time to ghost me. I guess our magical connection on Thursday was just the pre-pandemic feels. Looks like no quarantine sex for me!
i don't know how to get through this
I honestly just need to unload this: I live with my twin brother, my father, my step-mother and her 4-year-old son. I have been planning and saving up to move out for some time now, there is still a long time to go. The reason being... my family is unbearable. My brother is a prick who cannot control his temper, my father is grouchy and constantly nagging. My brother and I don't have a good relationship with my terrible step-mother, and her son is constantly screaming, actually, everyone is constantly screaming at each other; being stuck in a house together have not helped. Because of covid-19 my school is closed and I was fired from my job, so it's going to be real hard getting out of here. Not to mention I am getting back surgery in a couple of weeks and i can't get to the preparation appointments, so that is probably going to get postponed.
I don't know how to get through this.
getting (sleep)over it
I have been dating a divorced single Dad for over a year. We see each other several times a week, spend holidays with his family and have Sunday dinners....we do not live together....I think I just got dumped over text in the most indirect way possible....we can't see each other because he has told his 17 year old child they can't have sleep overs....to be clear I work from home and am not in contact with anyone to get the virus or be at risk and have been driving to his house to cook meals. I guess that's all over with now. Wowza kind of in shock...but I suppose it is good to know how little he really had invested in the relationship now instead of later.
night of the walking dead
So I am currently quarantining with my boyfriend, my best friend and her boyfriend (we all live together)! It’s been almost a week and we’re all in the hospitality industry so NONE of us is working from home.
Yesterday in the late afternoon me and my boyfriend got into a huge argument about what show to start watching. I said “Hey why don’t we start the walking dead from season one? It’s 9 seasons so we have a bunch of episodes to look forward to” . I regret it immediately. We very quickly got into this back and forth of how he doesn’t wanna start from the beginning, but I do cause I don’t remember much, leading to him insisting my memory is bad and my crying that that’s not fair. Problem is, my effort to storm out only got me from my bedroom to the living room. Eventually we both looked at eachother and agreed this is by far the stupidest argument we’ve had in the 6 years we are together but honestly I know that THERE WILL BE MORE. Good luck to all of us I guess! This too shall pass (?)!
stir crazy
Messy and love drama? TELL ME ABOUT IT. I live at home with two unstable parents who are about to get divorced and my 18 year old brother. I spend majority of my time at my boyfriends house because of how ridiculous things are at home and he’s driving me CRAZY. He is so lazy he just eats and sleeps and plays video games all day. I literally almost broke up with him because I was hormonal and BORED. It’s like being under quarantine is making me batshit (more so than usual) and its only been like two weeks !! I have no job currently because it closed down, and same with him. Luckily I work for a company that pays us for “catastrophe pay” but he doesn’t. He’s so used to being lazy now that he won’t even call unemployment! What the hell! He wont be able to pay rent if he doesn’t do this unemployment shit. He is driving me absolutely mad. What am I supposed to do? What does anyone do when we’re supposed to be at home all day? HE IS SO BORING. Like let’s play cards, lets paint, let’s get drunk and write a song- he’s a musician for fucks sake. This was a nice little rant I’m glad you like messy drama I needed this
going this alone
My husband fell off the wagon just before the virus and stopped taking his medication at the same time. I've been at home, alone for the past two weeks while he is off drinking with random strangers. At first the virus was fake, then it was an overblown symptom of my anxiety disorder, and finally now it's real but he doesn't care that so many people may die. He thinks I'm over-reacting and belittles me while he eats all the groceries that he did not pay for. He has not contributed one cent to our stock pile the entire time and feels like this is my responsibility since I'm the one that is so worried. I feel that I would be safer and better taken care of on my own.
straight from the kelly’s mouth
Two nights ago, it was raining in Brooklyn. At 3 am my boyfriend turns to me, terrified, from his laptop. He locks eyes with me and says “the virus travels in rain drops”. I was trying not to laugh because I know he’s nervous, so I stifle my giggles and say what is your source? That’s when he started bursting out laughing because he realized he was on a random ladies blog called “Kelly Says”. Finally laughing together about his sometimes suffocating paranoia was a relief we needed in this apartment.
tuesday, tuesday, so good to me
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost one year. Two days ago, we were standing out in the rain saying goodnight and he told me “the rest of the world may be falling apart, but I have you, and that’s more than enough.” I was so grateful that being cooped up together was making us stronger.
Today he called me first thing this morning and said he can’t see me. He needs time to work on himself and asked me not to text or call or communicate at all with him until at least Tuesday.
So now the world is falling apart, and so are we. I don’t know what to do. I lost the one good thing I had in the midst of this virus.
lovesick
And I thought dating in the normal world was confusing...
One night of drinks to catch up with a guy I was seeing months ago has accidentally turned into me quarantining with him and his housemates for a week as the city started to shut down. His friends are calling me his girlfriend (again) which is definitely not where we are (yet), but this quarantine has definitely sped things along. We had conversations about easing back into things and taking things slowly, but we’ve went from not talking for “x” amount of months to essentially living together. I know where all his clean dishes go, I’ve tidied the bathroom, we cook dinner together, I’ve watered his plants, we did the laundry. He told me he fell in love with me—does that mean he still is? After spending days on the couch binging television together, things are feeling decidedly relationship-y again. But he’s not my boyfriend... I think? But I want him to be? I think? This quarantine is either going to result in me being single/lonely as hell or with me in a loving relationship with the man I know I want to marry one day. Let’s hope when this bubble pops it’s the latter.