sibling solidarity
Hi Meg-My fourteen year old daughter had a complete meltdown-with tears!-because I gave away the Reese’s peanut butter eggs so that I wouldn’t eat anymore of them. At 11 pm her brother took her to buy more #quarantine. Also I’m a teacher and afraid this is how the semester will end
I HATE IT HERE (here=the universe, or zoom, which ever comes first)
I submitted a story about how the universe has been cock blocking me because I've been separated from the guy I've been talking to for a couple of months. Just found via a ZOOM CALL that he has a GIRLFRIEND.
I HATE IT HERE.
leaving behind ten years
I just moved across the country for a business venture with my boyfriend. Leaving behind 10 years of a place I called home. To "temporarily" live with him, and his parents. Our property isn't ready till late April. His parents are amazing, I'm overall very grateful to have shelter/food.
We are not getting along. Every day I'm berated, and belittled by this man child. I have no friends here, nor is it an option to go back home as it is pure chaos there. The 3 job offers, and opportunities for freedom have been obviously postponed. As much as I'd love to go be with my family, my mother has an autoimmune disease, I cannot put her at risk.
Everyday is getting heavier, and I'm unsure how I'm going to keep it together.
we might not survive each other
Overreactions
Being stuck at home during a lockdown has inspired me to get projects done around our house that have been painfully ignored. This includes painting the recently installed drywall and putting up new mirrors above the vanity in our bathroom.
During this new normal, both my S.O. of seven years and myself are working from home on a daily basis. At first I thought it was fun like a snow day, but inexplicably, everything he is doing is driving me insane. The amount I snap at him is increasing exponentially by the day.
So last night when I asked him if he could finally hang the mirrors in the bathroom he hesitated, “Are you sure you want to do this together right now?”
This was a valid question to ask after I demanded an hour earlier that he eat dinner at the opposite end of the house from me. But I’m stubborn and strong-willed, so of course I reply, “Yes! It will be fine!”
One hour, one broken screw (because power tools are acceptable for cheap Target hardware), and three extra mistake holes in the wall later, my SO is slamming doors and tools around because my first reaction to one of the mistake holes being visible outside the frame of the mirror was “too negative”. I’m crying in the mirror because to avoid digging this hole deeper, I can’t add that it’s so fucking off-center I’m never going to be happy with it.
We’ll probably survive coronavirus but we might not survive each other.
a beautiful little boy and his stupid father’s actions
My marriage of 10yrs has been at breaking point for 9 months or so after discovering my husband has been having unprotected sex with prostitutes. Since the discovery I’ve given birth to a beautiful little boy who was luckily unaffected by his stupid fathers actions! Stuck it out in hope that things would get better but now wish I’d gone ages ago. Feeling trapped in this toxic environment, Looks like we’re stuck together for the next few weeks if we don’t kill each other in the meantime. Can’t catch a break fuck you Covid19
"I want to marry you someday" kinda (cw: mention of assault)
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months, but pretty serious, "I want to marry you someday" kinda dating. Two weeks ago, I got too drunk and kissed some people I shouldn't have. The night got worse and I ended up being assaulted by a stranger.
I told my boyfriend everything, and we almost broke up. He didn't blame me for the assault, but couldn't understand why I would get drunk and kiss other people - to be fair, neither did I. But after a lot of tears and talks, I've decided to stop drinking and he's decided he wants to support me and stick it out. We have a lot of work to do to re-establish all the good things in our relationship, but we love each other and want to make it work.
He lives with his dad who is diabetic and paranoid, among other things. He also has a 90-year old grandmother who can't see and lives in the same city. His dad and grandmother are planning to stay together for a while starting this weekend.
There are rumours that London is going to be locked down in a day or two.
My boyfriend and I had originally planned for him to come stay with me and ride this out together. He's now thinking he should stay with his dad and grandmother instead.
If we meet up and have any contact he would have to isolate from them for 7-14 days, so basically going back to his house and being on his own completely.
I know that family is more important than anything, and it doesn't make sense for him to stay here for weeks on end when I am working from home and he's just chilling out on paid leave. But I'm worried that our relationship can't survive the distance.
We have the same love languages - quality time and physical touch. It just feels too soon to lose those parts of our relationship and still be committed to each other.
A guy I used to hook up with lives an hour walk or 30 minute bus ride away. I keep thinking about asking if I can pay him a visit. We're texting already.
If I make it through this year in one piece it will be a miracle.
before it was cool
She broke up with me just as quarantining and social distancing were becoming a thing. Her reason was she needed more space and time to work on herself. Well, she certainly got what she wanted.
massive comic cockblock
I'm a freshman in college and I had just recently starting falling for this guy who I won't see again maybe possibly ever. Nothing major, we never even exchanged numbers or anything, but there was MAJOR flirting. It's a big deal to me, though, because I've been trying to get over this guy who broke my heart some time ago (we didn't even date I'm just a weenie.) Now I'm stuck back in my hometown with the aforementioned heartbreaker, and I'll probably never see my classroom crush again :( I should also mention I'm 19 and I've never even had my first kiss, so this whole thing feels like one massive cosmic cockblock. I h8 it here.
my dad, however, stocked up on edibles
My obsessive nature already had me spending hours on the computer, daily, reading anything and everything - from the World Health Organization's daily situation reports to what 100 items disappear first during a national crisis to how to make an immune boosting garlic sauce that pairs well with anything...at least a week before Italy went on lockdown. Needless to say the pantry was stocked and I wasn't worried about the stores being out of TP when the first case was confirmed in our area. My dad, however, stocked up on edibles. I guess when SHTF we all have our priorities. Fast forward a couple days, and at least one edible into the afternoon for Pops...and, my announcement to the family that our best chance is to "self-isolate" gets interpreted as: to avoid the virus, we all need the new anti-viral called "sufisolat" (suh-figh-so-luht). I'm just glad we cleared that up before he went to the pharmacy to ask for some… or started tweeting about it…
send tequila
I live with my ex-stepdad (he's the best) and stepsister. He recently started dating someone new after him and my mom broke up a couple years ago. He introduced my stepsister and I to his new girlfriend for the FIRST time on Thursday.... By Monday, long story short, she is now hunkered down quarantining with us for an unknown amount of time. Nothing like a crash course in seeing if a relationship works than locking yourself in a house together with two opinionated daughters. TURNS OUT, she is TERRIBLE. She sits in the common spaces with her phone on speaker phone for an hour at a time. Her phone notifications are on as loud as they go and boy do they go off ALL day. And... she's an anti-vaxxer who doesn't believe in western medicine. WISH ME LUCK. Send tequila and the patience of a saint.
chicken soup
Our chickens have an enclosed run to keep them safe from predators. Since we've been home, I've been letting them out to free range around the yard since I can keep a watchful eye on them. I was inside the house doing some quick chores when my husband pointed out that the chickens were shredding the flowerbed in the front yard - kicking dirt all over the walkway to the front door, pooping everywhere, and tearing out our tulips, dandelions, rosemary, and artichokes. Jokes on them because when we inevitably run out of meat, I'm throwing those sneaky mother cluckers into the soup pot. Desperate times call for dinner on the table.
i just said i’m quarantined
This guy that I’ve been friends/more than friends with for awhile hasn’t texted me in a few weeks and as soon as the virus drama started he Snapchat’s me what are you up to and I send him a snap of me in bed looking longingly out the window saying quarantined and he responds can I come over? .... like no I just said I’m quarantined...
Home renovations vs. coronavirus
Being stuck at home during a lockdown has inspired me to get projects done around our house that have been painfully ignored. This includes painting the recently installed drywall and putting up new mirrors above the vanity in our bathroom. During this new normal, both my S.O. of seven years and myself are working from home on a daily basis. At first I thought it was fun like a snow day, but inexplicably, everything he is doing is driving me insane. The amount I snap at him is increasing exponentially by the day. So last night when I asked him if he could finally hang the mirrors in the bathroom he hesitated, “Are you sure you want to do this together right now?” This was a valid question to ask after I demanded an hour earlier that he eat dinner at the opposite end of the house from me. But I’m stubborn and strong-willed, so of course I reply, “Yes! It will be fine!” One hour, one broken screw (because power tools are acceptable for cheap Target hardware), and three extra mistake holes in the wall later, my SO is slamming doors and tools around because my first reaction to one of the mistake holes being visible outside the frame of the mirror was “too negative”. I’m crying in the mirror because to avoid digging this hole deeper, I can’t add that it’s so fucking off-center I’m never going to be happy with it. We’ll probably survive coronavirus but we might not survive each other.
something old, something new, something borrowed, something flu
My friend's wedding is this weekend. She's freaking out trying to make arrangements to still have it. I have tried to gently tell her that she should just cancel it and get married later this year. Or just have a quick ceremony with the Justice of the Peace and have a 'wedding' later. She isn't hearing it, is in full-blown panic mode and is scrambling to make it happen as the venue, vendors, officiant, bridesmaids/groomsmen and guests all cancel. I still haven't told her if I'm still going or not. I'm thinking nooooooo.........
i do think our relationship is stronger overall
I just wanna say that I've been stuck with my bf for the past two weeks in this TINY nyc apartment and it has been the cutest funnest time. jk - i've had daily meltdowns from cabin fever and he has been cool calm collected and i feel bad so i'm trying to be better. i'm usually the more high-strung and anxious one and a total germaphobe i do think our relationship is stronger overall and there's nobody else i'd rather be stuck with <3
dental dam make out
my ex-girlfriend and i are really good friends and still hook up (classic lesbian set-up). we're not fully quarantined together, but we've been seeing one another and keeping appropriate distance, not touching, etc. but the other night we made out through a dental dam
Extreme Picky Eaters: Co-quarantine edition
Co-quarantining with Extreme Picky Eaters - one is a Tiny Human who thinks I'm a short order cook, another is the husband, who won't eat the same thing two days in a row, refuses to eat meat that has been frozen for more than 3 days, says everything I cook gives him heartburn because I use the "cheap stuff". It's mental gymnastics trying to do any sort of meal planning! Makes me wish for my Russian study abroad host mom, who's rule is 'eat what I provide for you or starve'
If we stay together then we will likely catch the disease
This is a little different. My husband and I are older. We just celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary. We started dating after I had been widowed for a couple of years. My late husband died unexpectedly. We are both Emergency Dept. Nurses. He is 65 years old with comorbidities. I have been begging him to stop working because w/ COVID his risk of dying is 15-20%. If we both continue working we will only see each other through "surgical" masks, goggles, gloves and plastic gowns, as we work opposite shifts. I don't want to lose him , so I am begging him to quit.--- Then I will be on lockdown at the hospital without him. If we stay together then we will likely catch the disease, because we don't have the appropriate Personal Protective Equipment (PPEs) --- No N95 masks, No Tyvek suits, No Negative pressure rooms. No instruction on doffing and donning except youtube. He says that if I get sick, if he quits, then he couldn't live with himself. He says he is not so much afraid of dying, but he is afraid of leaving me alone. We both have seen a lot of death and illness throughout the course of our careers, but we both have acknowledged to each other that what is coming is possibly beyond what we both can endure. Still, he refuses to quit while I work and I will continue to go to work. I wish we could both quarantine.
If you happened to be at a Best Buy in CA, I was the mother who had her daughter scream loudly “Fuck you mom! I hate you”
Despite careful planning and mindfulness these past two weeks, the day shit all over me and I grabbed the day by the throat and squeezed.
1. Forgot about work meeting.
2. Forgot about remote therapy session.
3. Tried to prevent myself from yelling at my husband in front of the kids. He wanted to go play music; I wanted him to avoid COVID-19 as he has diabetes. Within seconds behind a closed door I was screaming at him to the point of giving myself a headache.
4. 20 minutes after the end of his horrific fight, our county was put on Shelter at Home. Fight an extreme moot point.
5. I ran to a little market thinking that a. it was still a secret from the world and b. I'd just grab a bit more cheese. An hour spent in line at my not-so-secret market later, I left with 6 bricks of cheese and BFFs with the two women in line ahead of me. I never caught their names, but we all love each other. Theirs are the last reasonable sweet voices I may ever hear.
6. I decide that now is the day to go to Best Buy and see if they will honor the warranty on my son's monitor. To put a cherry on top, I brought my teenage girl to see about a Chromebook for her. She wanted a new iPad instead. If you happened to be at a Best Buy in CA, I was the mother who had her daughter scream loudly "fuck you, mom! I hate you!" I was also the mother who told her daughter repeatedly to move away from her as she tried to lose her in the store. Then I was the mother who left the store and expected the girl to follow. After 15 minutes, I was the mother who went back in the store, found my daughter and screamed that if she didn't get in the car, I would leave her there. She had two minutes.
7. Teen girl got in the car. She is so out of control. I am doomed.
8. So much dumb shit happened that I cannot possibly list it all, but suffice it to say that my work from home strategy wasn't given proper guidance/direction from my boss, and on top of it, I need to write a self-care plan and turn it in to her. That wins first place in the dumb shit contest of the hours leading up until now.
9. I am fully stocked for three weeks with necessities. I decide that now we need more food like ice cream and begin to online shop on Amazon. There are no time slots left. I begin to cry and my husband asks me when I plan to shave my legs.
10. I realize that very soon the day above will seem quaint.